Parenting Can Be Tough, But So Are You

Posted on 8/18/2025, 8:13:43 PM

Are you struggling as a parent? If so, then you are far from alone. A lot of parents struggling in the first five years and of course, once the kids reach the terrible teens. That said, there are ways that you can get through this and ensure that you come out of the other side stronger. You can’t let the worst parts of parenting drag you down because it means that you miss the great elements. So, let’s explore some of the key steps that you should take to feel more positive about your parenting and guarantee that you remain on the right track with your kids. 

Stop Judging Yourself So Harshly

First, you need to make sure that you aren’t judging yourself too much as a parent. It’s easy to fall into this pitfall as it can feel like every little thing that you do is wrong. But you have to remember that there is no set way to parent effectively and people get it wrong all the time. The important thing is that you have to learn from your mistakes and keep moving forward with your focus on ensuring that your kids remain happy, safe, and secure. If you lose your patients every now and then it doesn’t matter. It’s all about regulating your emotions and ensuring that you don’t make the same mistake next time. 

Understand Milestones, But Don’t Live By Them - 

Ah, this is a big one. If you read the parenting books you’ll find that kids are supposed to walk at a certain age, talk at a certain age, learn the alphabet, read and the list goes on. But kids aren’t robots and they aren’t born with set levels like Pokemon. Instead, your child can “evolve” at any age and will almost certainly go at their own pace. Some people believe that hitting these milestones is a sign that your kids are clever and will thrive later in life. However, this isn’t the case. A great example of this is kids learning to crawl. You might be worried if your child doesn’t learn to crawl immediately. But that could be because they are going straight to walking. A lot of kids do this. That’s not to say you shouldn’t known the milestones. Reading benchmarks by age is useful because it will help you get a rough guide of where your kids are and when they are going. It’s just important to not fixate on them too much. This can put extra pressure on you and your child and that’s the last thing that you want. 

It’s Okay To Need Help Sometimes

You probably think that as a parent, you need to do it all by yourself. But you don’t. In fact, it’s totally fine to rely on the people around you. It’s better to do this actually because it means that you are not putting too much pressure on yourself and this is a crucial mistake. There are lots of different ways that you can get the help you need here. For instance, you might want to think about hiring help. This is useful if you have the spare cash in your budget. If you don’t then you may want to think about relying on your parents or other family members. You’ll be surprised how many people will be willing to lend a helping hand if you need it. 

It Feels Like You Can’t, But You Can, Because You Have To

As a parent, and as a primary caregiver you simply can’t give up. If you give up then your child has nobody. As hard as it is, each and every day, you can do it. If you are having issues with your mental health then it is best to speak to someone about this. The problems and compilations arise when these are left to stew and fester. If you get the issues off your chest then you and your children can be a lot more confident and happy. 

There will be times in your life when you are so close to quitting, but you don’t and you won’t. You won’t because you love your children so very much and want to constantly be there for them. 

Little People Are Watching You All Of The Time

One thing you do need to be aware of when it comes to parenting is that little eyes and little ears are watching and listening to you at all times. If you speak down to yourself, them, or other people they will catch onto this. What do little kids love doing? Copying what they see and hear. If you don’t want your child wandering around saying F bombs all the time then think about your own behaviors. Be a great role model for your children and they will grow up knowing how to behave and accept the rules and norms of society.

Just Do Your Best

Finally, there is no rule book or guide book that comes with parenting. Most of the time you are just winging it and hoping for the best. As long as your children are safe, fed, and watered then they will be happy little souls. Children don’t want for a lot, they just need your love and attention. Simply showing up is doing your best for them, and there are some parents out there who don’t even do that! 

If you are worrying about being a bad parent then you aren’t a bad parent. Bad parents don’t think about this. Your children will be grateful for everything you do and everything you provide them with growing up. Do your best and everything else will fall into place.

We hope this helps you understand some of the key steps that you can take to ensure that you are able to parent your kids as effectively as possible. Remember, there are always going to be ups and downs on this road. So, it’s often just a matter of putting one foot in front of the other so you can keep moving forward.